What People {DON'T} Tell You About Marriage

Saw a similar post on a friend's blog and it started joggin my memory of our marriage and the transitions we have had to make!

The truth is that marriage is great! While you always have a best friend to come home to at night, and a sidekick who always has your back in everything, there are also some other tidbits that seem to be classified when you recieve wedding advice! Here are some truths about our marriage EXPOSED!!

1.Sharing a bathroom is harder than you think-Getting ready in the morning at the same time is sometimes a chore between Jordan trying to wet his hair- head only in the shower, and me spraying hairspray everywhere hoping not to get it in his eyes! Jordan always jokes that it is a cloud of hairspray in the bathroom which is true most of the time. What can I say? I have alot of hair especially CURLY UNMANAGEABLE hair! :) Bathrooms are an important subject when you get married. Everything from where to put what, Towels on the shower door or hanger, and the girl taking up the majority of the bathroom. Get used to it!

2.It takes a while to get used to each others quirks-Before we were married we knew ALOT of quirks about each other, but there are always a few that you don't find out until marriage or have to deal with until marriage. I have always been a "sleep talker" which is a side of me that Jordan has never seen before :) Needless to say, he was in for a treat! I frequently have full on conversations with him about nothing or random yells and remember NOTHING in the morning. He usually thinks it is hilarious, until it keeps him up some nights. But if I gotta put up with his snoring, then he can put up with a few off the wall conversations :)

3. Groceries for 2 people are expensive-Might as well cook for 4 instead of 2! I was used to grocery shopping for just me, myself, and I when It was just me. It took me 2 weeks to go through a gallon milk and a month to go through a loaf of bread. Now every time I grocery shop, it looks like I storing up for the winter, when I really am just feeding a big bear named Jordan and a little for myself. lol We now go through 2 gallons of milk a week! Good thing we have a Costco close by :) I'm a regular there for more reasons that just milk! It is hard to buy meals for just 2 people. Seems we are always cooking for at least 4 at times, despite trying to portion and freeze stuff!! At first, Jordan would freak out when he saw the grocery bill, and then after going through it would realize that it was all legit and justified, just groceries in general are expensive especially buying for double what you are used to.

4. Don't count on watching "your" shows-Before we were married, I could count on watching everything I wanted to watch. NOW things are a tad bit different :) We have to smush all of our shows together and hope we get to see a few minutes of each! Seems like football and wrestling take priority, but I squeeze in a few of mine when I can EVEN if it requires the night to consist of Survivor/America's Got Talent/The Voice/Operation Repo/Chopped. That's alot huh? My point exactly... WELCOME TO MARRIED LIFE!

5. You suddenly feel guilty about buying clothes or ANYTHING for that matter- I have to admit that this is probably the first time this happened to me with a few exceptions... and it is super weird!  Before we got married, I would see a good deal or a cute top and be like "I worked hard this week I deserve it" and buy it. Obviously I still need clothes after being married, but I can't put my finger on it about what exactly makes it so different. Sharing money maybe?  Jordan is super cute too when it comes to sharing money now and is super considerate. He will be working in another city and call and be like "I'm hungry so I'm going to stop and get some dollar burgers mm k?" lol this conversation usually involves a little chuckle of his cuteness follwed by an "Ok babe sounds good" :)

6. Laundry is off limits- I am super super picky about laundry. Everything from the way it feels to the way it smells, to what is washed with what, and what to use for stains. As a result of this, Jordan knows that him helping with putting laundry in is off limits. Sounds kind of silly beings that he deals with chemicals for laundry for a living, BUT home laundry is TOTALLY different in my book :) Laugh I know, but I am weird like that. Most wives I'm sure would love it if their husband helped out with laundry, but I am the odd one out with that. Jordan doesn't complain either other than what is to be folded/hung, so I must be doing something right :)

Those are just a few of mine that seem to stand out the most, but I asked Jordan about what he thought were some things people didn't tell you about getting married, and surprisingly, he gave me a good size list! Here is his list spoken by him :)

7. Men suddenly learn that style is more important now than comfort- Before getting married I would just throw on some basketball shorts and a tshirt to go hangout or play ball or run to the store.This soon changed after the first few comments by my wife like "Are you really going to wear that?" or "That doesn't match whatsoever" lol She then clued me in that apparently black and blue don't match, cut off shirts are so high school, and that dressing up to go out was important. Who knew?! I'm just a guy that wants to be comfortable who married a woman that has some serious fashion do's and don'ts this I now know.

8. You can't just do whatever whenever anymore- As a bachelor, I enjoyed being able to do whatever whenever I wanted without having to do too much planning or let anyone know. This also quickly changed after taking into account that now I had dinner waiting for me when I got home, another person to take care of and include, and a schedule to ahere to! I also now have to plan ahead at least 45 min if I wanna go anywhere because Elise takes at least that long to get ready if not longer!

9."Guy" time is pretty much obsolete-  I'm used to hanging around with several friends always and now being married you don't make "guy" friends, you make "couple" friends so your wife can have a friend too. Who woulda thunk it?! Not that its neccesarily a bad thing, just different :) I still have a few occasion golf or frisbee dates with guy buddies, but not nearly what I was used to.

10. Getting used to being "sensitive"- For those of you who know me, I am not the touchy-feely mushy gushy type of guy!  My wife on the other hand, is a girl, and is the total opposite. She is always putting little cute notes in my wallet and writing things on the board in the bathroom. It is an adjustment to train your way of thinking to be overly sweet and full of compliments and being understanding when she starts crying with no warning for no reason. I admit it freaked me out a little at first, but she is the best and I wouldn't have her any other way than the sweet sensitive person she is!

11. Money goes out ALOT faster with 2 people instead of 1- I am not a spender. Like AT ALL. When I lived solo, I spent money on bills and instant banquet meals. That was it! I never bought anything for myself and was content with things. Now spending money on groceries and bills and prescriptions and gas etc. etc. etc. Money flows alot more than I am used to! We are conservative with our money and it is just an adjustment to having to support 2 people now instead of 1, but DANG! At first I freaked out when I saw the account fluctuate on a daily basis, now it is just reality.

All in all, we love being married and even after 3.5 months, we are still figuring things out! Good thing we have the rest of forever to get it right ;) The biggest things of being married are to laugh, enjoy life together, cherish moments, and be grateful for each new day to learn, grown, and everyday strive to become more Christlike.

I just realized that I haven't blogged for OVER 2 weeks!!! Wowzers!! Time for an update :)

 

The first weekend in October, Jordan was on call in Spokane for the weekend. We planned a fun weekend with our best friends and shared a hotel room :) Needless to say, we caused just a little bit of trouble with both us couples! We shopped till we dropped at all the malls, well, at least me and Jennika did! The boys just trailed along or snuck off to play arcade games in the bottom floor of the mall :) We ate super yummy food and on a whim, BOUGHT A DYSON!!! I was soooo happy! Costco had a killer deal and the coupon was going off the next day, so Jordan reluctantly agreed :) We also went and saw Taken 2 in the theatre! Such a suspensful movie! I'm pretty sure my hand was over my eyes the majority of the time lol ooops!! The BEST part of the whole weekend was by far what went on in our hotel room. For those of you that haven't read my last couple of posts, our friends Jordan and Jennika that went with us are avid game players, just like us! After all the intense shopping and good eating, we came back to the hotel and swam in the pool and jacuzzi :) We then had no idea that we would enter into the most intense game of pinochle that we had EVER played together!! We were up playing till 6AM and by then were supe super loopy! We were to the point of laughing at stupid things and being crazy silly! I have never laughed so hard in a looonng time :) We ended up just going down to eat our breakfast in the lobby at 6am BEFORE we went to bed for the night....WHAT A NIGHT!! All 4 of us will surely never forget that weekend! Hopefully more weekends like that to come soon....

 

I started working my new job and I am loving it! I miss being home to get things done, but reality has kicked in. I have worked there for about 3 weeks and am enjoying it so far! The atmosphere is much more laid back than in previous dental offices that I have worked for. I enjoy being able to do my own thing without having someone breathing down my neck :) The doctor I work for lives in Joseph, Oregon. He flies in to do patients a couple days a week and the other couple days I have time to prep the schedule, do billing and payments, and get things organized. I get to go to Joseph, Oregon next weekend to do some training on a new software program our office is getting! I hear it is gorgeous up there with a beautiful lake :) I hope to be able to bring Jordan with me and take some amazing pictures! Here are a few pics from the office!

 

 

 

I was excited to bring in some pics for my desk :)

 

After starting my new job, I got to go back to Twin Falls to see my family and do some photography!  It was great to see my parents and my brother after not seeing them since we got married :) I had alot of fun doing sessions for several people and some return clients! Saturday got winded out, but we moved a few around and made the best of it! I loved seeing families that I had previously worked with and how their little ones had grown! I have such a passion for photography and being able to do that AND see my family and friends in the same trip was amazing! I also got to see my sweet Heider boys that I used to nanny before we moved. Those boys are my favorite and I miss them so much. BUT, after 5 days of being away from the hubby, I was missing him and happy to be home with him again.

 

The weather has really cooled down here in Lewiston and the recent rain has helped with all the fires around this area. That makes for amazing orange sunsets every night in the convenience of our backyard. I LOVE sunsets <3

 

We are soooo excited for the holidays coming up! Warm sweaters, snuggly blankets, hot chocolate, and good company :) Excited to bake yummy goodies and make Christmas cards!

 



 From our home to yours, we hope all is well!

 

Everything and in between :)

As usual it has been a busy life at the Martitz house! It has taken me a couple weeks to finally get around to blogging, but I've snuck a few minutes to share :)

 

First off, a little good news :) I accepted a job at a local dental office a few days ago and I am thrilled to get started! I have been very very picky as far as applying for jobs since Jordan has such a great job and I wanted to be home when he was. Pretty much the only thing up here for jobs is retail and fast food. It has been discouraging at times, but I have also enjoyed the opportunity the settle in and be a stay at home wife for a few months :) I interviewed with the dental office and had a pretty good hunch they were going to call me back. Sure enough, the next day I recieved a phone call. I still hadn't made my mind up about how I felt about the practice and the interview, but then they offered me $4 more and hour than I expected. Needless to say, that was the deciding factor! I think most of it was that I was scared of how big of shoes I had to fill, but I am going to give it my all and do my best! I will be starting in the next few days. Can't wait!

 

 

The last few years, I have been MIA for Jordan's birthday for one reason or another, so it was a running joke with us after we got married if I was going to throw him a birthday party on his "half" birthday which is September 26th. He hadn't mention it since we got married and so I was hoping he totally forgot about it. I decided to go all out and throw a party with friends. Jordan never buys anything for himself so I figured it was a good excuse to spoil him :) While he was at work, I spent the whole day decorating and making his cake. I did a basketball theme and it turned out super cute! Our friends came over and we had lots of food and played games. He was super surprised and I was thrilled that I could actually pull it off! It is hard to pull one over on him without him knowin, but this girl snuck it past him! I was sooo proud of his cake that I made! Take a look :)

 

Looks yummy right?!

 

 

I am soooo happy that the weather is finally somewhat cooling down here! Even in the 70s and I am a happy girl! I love Fall, it is my favorite season! I love all the leaves changing, warm sweatshirts, and cuddling :) I broke out the sweaters and scarves a little early, but I decided to hurry on the fall spirit :)

 

 

 

We had had a few events also the last few weeks! Some friends of ours from Twin Falls live in Moscow now, which is about 25 min away from Lewiston! Their little girl, Addyson, turned 5 and so we got to drive up and celebrate with her! She is such a cutie and it was fun to catch up with friends :)

 

Happy Birthday Miss Addyson!!!

 

 

So as most of you know, I am a pinterest addict! I blogged previously about making a dry erase frame that says "I love you because". It has a dry erase marker by it and we take turns writing cute things on it. We were super good at doing it at first, but then it dwindled a little bit. BUT, about a week ago, I woke up to the sweetest surprise message! It made my day <3

 

Yup I have the best hubby!

 

Speaking of the best hubby, Jordan is KILLING his territory here in Lewiston! This last month was considered a "push" month where they have to sell more than usual for the company to make budget for the quarter. Jordan ended up achieving 118% of his budget!!!! WHEW!! He was so thrilled and I couldn't be more proud of him! He is doing so great with the territory and constantly growing new accounts. Way to go babe!

 

As many of you know, I have longed to start my own photography business for quite some time! I recently named my photography "Face Expressions Photography" and ordered business cards!! I met with the Small Business Development Center to acquire the proper licensing and I am looking to license the first part of next year. I am so excited to finally be following my dream in photography and sharing my passion with others!! check out my blog faceexpressionsphotography.blogspot.com or on facebook as "Face Expressions Photography".

 

 

 

So we have made some friends here in Lewiston, but best of all, the Jeppson's. We pretty much live at each other's houses several nights a week, and are up till wee hours of the morning on weekends, fighting over an intense game of pinochle or Rook. We <3 Jordan and Jenika and are so happy we met them :) They are crazy and fun just like us. PERFECT!

 

 

That about sums up our life right now :) New opportunities ahead and we are making Lewiston home. Jordan is on call coming up and so we are headed for Spokane, WA for the weekend with the Jeppson's full of shopping, food, and fun. Can't wait!!

 

Hope all is well with you and you family :)